There's one thing I like about myself: I rarely give a shit what other people think of me! Nginje and I ♥ it, which makes it pretty easy for me to break out of the stereotypical norms society has so readily conformed to.Women are made to believe that they must never make the first move when it comes to dating. There is general belief that men can be turned off when women are aggressive. As Wayne so aptly put it: "Fuck the world, pop the cherry..." It's time I reinvented the rules...
It's emotionally and mentally exhausting having to subscribe to schools of though introduced by Westeners when we are people of the South. It's draining. I sobered up to this fact back in high school but I was recently reminded of it not too long ago. Every woman has been in that situation: wondering when to call after a date. They are afraid that when they call the men they are dating or interested in would immediately give them the label that they are ‘flirts’ or ‘easy.’ There's one problem with me though... I don't give a fuck!
So many women have asked for advice regarding this matter. Is it alright to call men?
They are afraid that there are consequences for calling AND not calling. It’s hard to tell really whether this move can make or break a potential relationship. Women should know when to call after a date as this is very critical when you are still on the dating stage.
Here's a piece I lifted off Askmen.com (use it, don't use it)
"First and foremost, you have to really out some thought on phone calls with men and must know when to call after a date. Most women believe that they have the right to say or do anything that they are thinking of doing. In fact some of them think that it is alright to call the man they are dating ten times a day because they feel like doing so. Women usually don’t give it a much thought on when to call after a date. They just do it and call.
But these women will eventually realize, after a series of failed encounters or relationships, the painful yet truthful realization – that yes, calling a man matters. These are the very issues that can either break or seal the deal of a relationship. Women should know when to call after a date.
When to call after a date is quite crucial in a relationship. By understanding the methods involved and following the tips, then you can actually comprehend the effect this action has on a man. If you call at the wrong time, then the relationship might be weakened. But if you call at the right time, you might be expecting a string of dates to follow.
We know it’s hard to understand how a man’s mind works. We know that there is a saying that you should follow your instincts. Sadly, you also have to go with logic and reason to know when to call after a date. Notice that when you are able to understand what goes on in your man’s head, then that’s when instincts will turn out to be right. It takes some getting used to on how you should act and react.
Keep in mind that relationships fail even in its early stages once men find the women going overboard and getting too cozy around them so early on. Women may not be aware of it but there are some actions which can push men away. These include calling men so you must know when to call after a date.
A man would not tell women but tell their other friends what they really feel when a woman he does not call keep on calling him. Here’s the key: how a woman handles calls can pretty much make the man want her more.
Calling him first – all the time – can put the woman in a lower position. Traditional as it may sound but men should always initiate the calling. Always being the one to call first can send negative messages to the man.
There are reasons why men don’t call. You do not have to rack your brain by figuring what the answer is to that question, “Why didn’t he call?” As an empowered woman, know that you only deserve the best and know when to call after a date. Sure, it helps that you do not have communication because it makes him miss you. Regardless, only when a man shows interest must you call."
And so says Askmen.com. But here's what I think
We're taught to employ 20th century dating mentality while living in the 21st century. It's okay to call him.
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